I was so sorry to hear about your mother”. Be sure to introduce yourself by saying “I am not sure if you remember me, but I am Lisa Smith and our children go to school together.

Even on a good day it can be difficult to recall a name or face out of context, with emotions more intensified this can be even more difficult.

Introduce Yourself move through the Receiving Line, if there is one, unless you know the family well, be sure to go through and introduce yourself.

The Guest Book is a nice memento for the family and can provide important information for thank you notes etc.

When entering a venue, should there be a Guest Book, please be sure to sign it.

If you cannot avoid a late arrival, make every effort to avoid disturbing the proceedings.

Some celebrations are drop in events, if this has been indicated on the invitation then you may drop in anytime during the celebration. Late arrivals are a distraction to those who are already in attendance, and can draw attention away from the celebration of the person being honoured.

It is appropriate and respectful to arrive on time at the venue.

And if you are walking or standing a lot, it's much better to be focused on the people speaking then on how badly your feet hurt! Definitely do not wear stilettos or thin heels if you will be walking in grass, on pebbles etc. Your new Louboutins may be totally fabulous, but the focus won't be on your shoes at this event. Wear comfortable shoes, you will likely be standing and it's not a fashion show.

Wear weather & location appropriate clothing ~ Is the celebration inside or outside? Is it in a church or at a park? Make sure to keep this in mind and choose clothing and footwear that is appropriate for the venue.

Etiquette experts all agree that mourners should avoid skimpy outfits, the just-rolled-out-of-bed-look, belly baring shirts, buttock baring pants, torn jeans, shorts, t-shirts with logos, flip flops etc.

Ensure your outfit represents the image you want to present to all. Other conservative tones are acceptable as well.

If the host has not made a specific attire request, then traditional funeral attire is suggested such as wearing black or darker colours such as charcoal gray or navy blue it is still considered respectful and customary.

or themed clothing or accessories – if this is the case, then go for it!

The host may have a special request such as wearing the person of honour’s favourite colour etc.

It is important to be respectful regarding attire at a Celebration of Life or Life Celebration.

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